Recovering alcoholics and dating
Not everyone will understand why you can’t make it to dinner or why you may need to cancel at the last minute because you desperately need to go to a meeting.
Continued after video: If you’re a recovering alcoholic and are having struggles with remaining sober, your date should respectfully abstain from drinking while you’re out together.
Someone who has spent a significant portion of their life with a drug or alcohol addiction will have an altered sense of who they are.
They will likely possess an exaggerated, outsized, and/or unrealistic perception of themselves.
Dating someone who is recovering from addiction will require a high degree of sacrificial love, but what a committed, sober person can bring to a relationship is utterly invaluable.
The act of recovering from addiction requires an exceptional level of self-awareness and acceptance.
They must grapple with a chronic brain disease where relapse is an ever-present reality.
They must use coping mechanisms and strategies to deal with cravings.
This is not to say that a partner may not offer much-needed support, but if things start heading south, so could your recovery.
Before you enter into any relationship with someone in recovery, it is important that they have at least one year of sobriety. Because people in the early stages of sobriety do not have a true sense of who they really are.
If you’re single and new to recovery, you may be wondering when you can start dating again.
That sense of who they were before becomes clearer the longer someone is in recovery.
Absent that realization, dating anyone with less than a year under their belt can make for a dramatic, twister of an experience.