Emotional effects of dating violence
These are the feelings that lead to psychological disorders and behavior such as substance abuse, cutting, eating disorders, and sexual rigidity.
Some teenagers become more sexual in their behavior after experiencing dating abuse because they now derive their sense of self-worth from the physical contact.
While emotional abuse differs from physical abuse, the end result is the same…a spouse becomes fearful of their partner and begins to change their behaviors to keep their partner happy.
The happier their partner, the less domestic violence the spouse has to suffer.
“Dating abuse at any age is a significant form of trauma,” Monroe points out.
“Whenever a teen experiences such abuse, there are going to be emotional symptoms of trauma such as depression, anxiety, shame, and low self-esteem.” When someone is abused, she explains, it creates a sense of disempowerment and loss of control.
They were most likely to speak up or otherwise get involved when they saw a friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend behaving in a jealous or controlling manner, when they heard comments such as “she deserved to be raped,” or when they believed their friend was being abused or was in a potentially dangerous situation.
Fewer students were likely to express concern or disapproval over sexual jokes, comments, and gestures.
In her book, "Rape in Marriage," Diana Russell reprinted Biderman’s Chart of Coercion from an Amnesty International publication, Report on Torture, depicting the brainwashing of prisoners of war.
Below are some tactics an emotional abuser will use: People, who use emotional abuse to control others, use tactics similar to what prison guards use on prisoners of war.
They know that physical control is not easily accomplished.
Similarly, most parents believe they would recognize signs if their child was in an abusive dating relationship.
In a report released last year by the University of New Hampshire’s Carsey School of Public Policy, more than 90 percent of high school students acknowledged being aware of and having the opportunity to intervene in situations involving dating aggression or sexual aggression, but often did not.