Eight rules for dating my teenage daughter
To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.
For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.
These first relationships usually don’t go beyond chatting, posing for pictures later posted on social media and requests to attend coed group outings.
Most experts and parents consulted for this article say group “dates” to the mall, movies or even a friend’s house are fine as long as they’re supervised, even if it means just being in the same shopping center.
The group eats dinner together, poses for pictures together and attends the dance together. ’” What to watch for: Officially, it’s OK for kids who aren’t part of a large friend group to go with just a date or with another couple, and it’s OK for kids to go “stag.” Unofficially, there are unwritten rules that your teen knows might discourage him from attending even if he wants to.
He feels comfortable with these early forays because “we’ve given him the talk about the need to respect young ladies and what we expect of him.” What to watch for: Smartphones and social media can lay traps for preteens and young teens.
“It’s not your parents’ dating anymore,” concedes Robin Gurwitch, a clinical psychologist at the Duke Center for Child and Family Health.
“We don’t have the vocabulary and we don’t have the experiences to be able to help.
Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.
This means a boy and girl who feel an attraction spend time together, whether alone or in groups, then text and/or Snapchat in-between.