It’s not an accident,” says Catherine Tucker, a therapist in Sacramento, California. The questions you should ask if that happens to you include: “What do you want to do? So, when you feel jealousy or discomfort over your ex dating, remember that no one can really take the same place in your ex’s life that you had. When that time comes you aren't going to waste time worrying about who your ex is with.So, keep in mind how unique you are and that you will also have someone new to share your life with one day. Letting go is a process, and it will take some time and effort to get there. Why not start not worrying about that now, instead of later?We seem to keep having the same fights about his needy ex-wife and the negative impact she has on our relationship.Despite my wish to appear mature and chill, I have a strong distaste for the ex-wife.Cathy Meyer is a certified divorce coach, marriage educator, freelance writer, and founding editor of Divorced
Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was your spouse, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.Whether the divorce was your idea or your spouse’s, most people find themselves experiencing negative emotions when their ex-spouse starts dating again. You spent a large part of your life with this person, and during the years you were together, dating and married, you came to think of that person as your true significant other.You two were a couple and to see your spouse with someone else will trigger feelings in you that may be surprising and unpleasant.Think this is a situation that only famous people get placed in? It happens all the time to people who are teachers, professionals, and average parents.Is it ever appropriate to get back together with an ex-spouse? “I can see all different kinds of circumstances why you might end up dating someone you’ve broken up with,” says Jessica Bollinger, a therapist in Lexington, Kentucky. If we want to try this, we can’t just have these little rendezvous.’ I guess I’d have to ask myself this. Why am I allowing myself to remain emotionally stuck, instead allowing myself to stay here?