Advice guy dating single mom

I’m not talking about some kind of sick quid pro quo situation. I once paid to a sitter to go out on a date that cost less than that for dinner.

Stop pushing single parents to get a sitter when they aren’t available or can’t afford it. There is little more embarrassing than having to explain to a potential date that our budget may extend to supporting ourselves and our kids but might not cover the cost of a sitter for a night out.

I think I was somewhat lower on the list than housecleaning and making dinner. I matter, too, and it’s unrealistic to expect a single parent to put you before their kids OR themselves.

Single parents need all the self-care they can get to do this job.

We want connection and to fall in love, like anyone else, but we are not here for any of your bullshit if you just want to play games.

We’ll play Chutes and Ladders with our kids, but we’re not going to play dating games with you. There are so many challenges for single moms to date at all.

I often have to work around their visitations with their dad or even their school schedule. We already have enough stress and responsibility without dating adding more.

A friend of mine and I were recently doing what we do: comparing our lists of garbage dating trends.

There are just so many that this conversation could go on forever, but that day’s focus zeroed in on an enormous pet peeve for both of us: the perception of single moms in the dating world.

While most people might have the good sense to think it but not say it, I’ve had this said to me directly a number of times, as if I were being paid an amazing compliment. When you open with this statement, you’ve already clarified that we aren’t even people to you; just a notch on your bedpost. If you’re willing to date someone older, be mature enough to date them for themselves without invoking this ugly term.

If you feel like you need to use it, maybe you’re not mature enough to be dating someone older than you.

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